Try a cliché

According to the South African Pocket Oxford Dictionary - 3^rd edition, a cliché is a phrase or idea that has been overused and has become uninterested or stale.  In our society today, we have many of those. Words like “fun”, “I love you”, “I’m sorry” and often they mean nothing to the person saying it.

Let’s take for example the phrase “I am sorry”. Many of us use this word every day and what bugs me, is that we don’t really meaning it. I am sorry, means that you acknowledge the wrong doing and assume responsibility for the wrong. Hence, giving you the chance to make amends and change things to be right.

Now, it does not work like that anymore. I am sorry can be used to just make the person hurt or offended get over things, even if the offender does not mean it. As long as I said sorry, he/she must get over it and move on. That is one of our thinking.

We are in a world in which words get twisted, misunderstood and drawn out of the real context. Whatever you say, know the real meaning before using it in a sentence and please, mean it.

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Fear

According the South African Pocket Oxford Dictionary, 3^rd edition – Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm. Indeed fear is an unpleasant emotion and no one likes that emotion.

Will focus on the threat of pain - We all have pains, it can be the pain of losing a love one (mother, sister, father, best friend or a lover). When we go through this type of pain, the emotion that always arises from it, is that we feel that we can’t go on and cannot live or survive without them. Often, thinking about the fact of them being gone or even losing them, brings an immediate rush of fear into our lives. It is normal and it happens.

One thing you have to know is that, fear has the power to control your life and so don’t let it. The remedy that I find comforting is Hope. It gives a person certain assurance that things will be alright. That even in the midst of pain, harm or danger, things will be alright and they always do – don’t you agree with me?

And so, I will advise you not to give in to fear. Fear will present itself; it will knock on your door, but chose to reject it and don’t open the door. Take the courage and hope in the best. Often it seems impossible, because of what you might be going through, but it is not. Make the choice and take it a step at a time.

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Feelings follow behaviour

Love As the best remedy To get rid of hurt

Love As the best remedy

To get rid of hurt

We all feel something in our everyday lives. We feel hungry, angry, hurt, pain, cold, happy, joy, love, thankful, and the list is endless. Those feelings arise because someone or something caused it and therefore we feel it. When the feelings arise, what comes next – is the behaviour. However, I will advice you, be careful in the behaviour you chose, remember you have the power.

Let’s take for instance; you get hurt by a friend. Let’s say she took your man, it is a hypothetical scenario. I can imagine disrespected she must be, and on top of that it’s painful and it hurts like hell. In this situation, my dear you should have every right in the world to be angry.  The behaviour that will follow will be to cry, get angry for you have been disappointed and betrayed. Leave it as that; don’t complicate your life by allowing a negative behaviour. Don’t get too angry that will make you do something crazy.

Ask yourself, what kind of behaviour I want to exhibit from this feeling of disappointment, anger and betrayal. Will I take this as a learning process, stand tall and live my life to the fullest or will I allow it to make me miserable, just because I feel I have the right to be angry?

So, whatever you feel will definitely prompt behaviour – decide whether you want the feeling to follow by a positive or negative behaviour. I personally think that we will never escape the good and bad feelings, it is what you do and become with those feelings that will truly define you. As Rihanna says “Life is too short to be seating around miserable... and the rest you know it”.

Advice: Allow the behaviour that comes out of your feelings to be positive; be it bad or good feelings. If you are feeling happy good and if you are felling sad, for some reasons, remember it is not the end of the world. As long as you are alive, there is always hope.

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Give thanks

Feels good saying thanks

I give thanks for the opportunity to see another day.

I give thanks for the privilege to be friends with God and be loved by him. For you to even get to see R.kelly or Obama, you need to go though protocol and they need to know whether you are even worthy of been in their presence. With God it is not like that. Anytime I feel like talking to him, I just need to call on him and he is there. For that I am thankful.

I give thanks for Amparo Mele Colifa, my wonderful mama who gave birth to me. For the love, support and faith she has in me.

I give thanks for the crazy yet strong family unit I have.

I give thanks for good, supporting and loving friends given to me. I have realised that I always have friends that will go the extra mile for me. Thought we have our fights, but I can count on them; and this most people do not have.





I give thanks for food, shelter, drink, clothing, money, education and the opportunity to travel the world and see beautiful things and strange people but good in their way.

I give thanks for my mistakes and failures, because they made me who I am. I celebrate them!!!

I give thanks for my success, because they made me believe that I have potential inside me.

I give thanks for my past, my present and my future.

Above all, I give thanks for the good and bad times. Good and bad times are here to stay; they are part of moulding our characters. So, even if we will like to do away with the bad times, always remember they are there for moulding you into the best.

Hence, when the bad times come, don’t give up hope... press on and be thankful, because I am telling you from experience, things do get better.

The list is endless. If I have to give thanks, I will stay writing forever. One piece of advice, celebrate life in all phases of life.

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Keep focus on your goal



Keep focus in the face of distractions

Keep focus in the face

of distractions

It is very easy for us to loose track of our goals and who we are. I have realised and noticed that things like “wanting approval from humans and always competing with the next person” can make us loose focus.

We are all unique and we all have different purpose in life. There is no sense in you wanting to be Oprah and wanting your friends and family and society to like you and approve what you do. Realised that you are different and you were made unique for a reason. We all can’t be doctors and we all can’t be models. We all have our paths in life – stay true to yourself and focus to your goal.

Focus on your goals 

If you know what you want out of life, don’t get sidetracked by anybody. Live your life, find your purpose and work towards that purpose, instead of wanting to be me. Stop competing with the next person. You know what you want, go for it and do it to your best ability and success will be yours. Even when you are faced with adversities, don't get sidetracked.

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It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

confident because
she knows what to say

As a Public Relations Practitioner, it is one of my duties to be able to speak publicly. Public speaking entails things like presentations, speeches, interactions, and so forth. In order to excel at these activities, there is a certain level of knowledge you need to acquire on who your audience are and what you have to say. If you fail to put that into perspective, you can end up either not saying anything useful, or talking a lot and nonsense.

John a little shy, while the ladies

Taking charge of the conversation

There is also the fact that, most people are not used to speaking publicly. It is understandable that some people get shy and nervous when they are to give a speech or make a presentation and no matter how ready they are to deliver, they might mess it up by either not saying anything, or beating around the bush.

It is very frightened to speak in front of everybody because, you have all eyes on you, ready to judge you according to your accent, physical appearance and knowledge of the topic The advice is no matter how nervous or shy you get, know that when you are there you are in charge. You know the message and your audience doesn’t. So, speak with confidence and make it short and straight to the point. Practice and know your message and you will be okay.

Practice a little and get the message across.

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Wedding cake destroyed

Wedding cake in the middle of the road, at first thought, it spells wedding disaster; because if you put the wedding cake in the middle of the road, cars passing by will sweep it away and that can make the bride panic. That the cake got swept by a car passing by, does not mean it has to be the end of the ceremony.

I say wedding disaster, because when the cake gets swept away, there will definitely be kayos. The wedding planner will have to start making plan for another cake to be delivered. The bride can loose it, because things are not going according to the way she envisioned her wedding to be. Different things can happen that will unsettle this joyful occasion.



United forever no matter what

To avoid that, don't leave the wedding cake in the middle of the road. Have a plan B, in case of any unforeseen situations. If for any reason, you do leave the wedding cake in the middle of the road, and it gets swept away by cars, try not to panic. Remember, just because the cake has been cut to pieces, should not mean that the ceremony has to stop. Go ahead and get married and have the best cake of your life (each other).

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Lessons learned

Lessons are learned out of choices one makes in situations. Some choices are stupid and foolish and other choices are wise and good. I am thankful to God for giving me wisdom and strength to learn from those choices that i made (some were foolish and stupid and others good and wise) and I am here to share it with the world. These are just few of the many lessons I have learnt and as time goes, I will share the rest with you, but for now, I hope these helps you in some ways.

Be principled and don’t bend it for anything. Principles are set to keep you focus and guide you in achieving your goals. As long as it does not hurt anyone, including yourself, stick to them.

It is ok to be you. That is what makes you unique. It is not a bad thing to be different from others. If no one wants the real you, then they don’t deserve to be in your world.

Don’t pretend to be someone you are not, just because you want people to like you. If someone cares about you, he/she should take the whole of you.

Don’t give in to fear, instead choose courage.

One is love because one is love; no reason is needed for one to be loved. So, don’t try to work hard to make that person love you, if he or she does not love you just as you are, whatever you do will not change that. If for some reasons, he or she ends up loving you because you are what he or she wanted you to be, it will not last long; because at the end, you will show your true colours. Let the person take you as you are.

It is truly a poor idea to lie to yourself.

Have fun but be responsible about it. There is nothing wrong in enjoying life, even the word of God in Ecclesiastes (A book by a wise teacher) agrees. It becomes wrong when your fun affects you or other people negatively.

When you know better, you do better.

In conclusion – LIVE, LOVE AND LEAD.

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