An inspired life - full of love and peace.: April 2012

Thursday 26 April 2012

Love

This is how we should love

We all want to be loved or feel love and it is important we should love back too. My best
definition of love is according to St. Paul in the 1 Corinthians chapter 13 vs. 4-7. He tells us that “love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Love has nothing to do with music video or holy hood love. To me that kind of love is not real or true. That kind of love expects something in return and expects you to be perfect. It expects you to be a certain way to be loved. While the love by which we came into existence, gives it unconditional, with no string attached.

“LOVE” is full of grace. For example: you don’t need to do anything for you to be loved by someone. That person loves you simply because you are you. No matter what you do, he or she loves you and that is what grace does.

One thing I have realised in this world is that, people want you to be a certain way for them to love you. I will advise you to stick to who you are. As long as you are not doing any wrong to any one, you are good. You don’t need to change who you are for you to receive love. If that person does not love you for whom you are, then he/she does not deserve to be in your life. Don’t be someone else to get love; it will affect you in the long run. Love only wants the best for you.

I leave you with my favourite quote of love from Paulo Coelho "one is love because one is love. No reason is needed to be loved". Remember this, the next time anyone wants you to be a certain way for him/her to love you. The only thing love wants from you, is to for you to be the best and reach your God given potential.

Source of Picture:

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It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Admit it to yourself and control things

We all have been in love and in that situation in which the person we love does not feel the same way. I am not saying that you should stick around and make a fool of yourself, but the earlier you accept that you have feelings for that person, the better is going to get for you. It is a poor idea to lie to yourself.

You know yourself and what you feel about the person and yet you are denying it to yourself. Why? I think because society makes you feel that way. That admitting that you care for someone who does not care for you is embarrassing and disgraceful.

Now i want you to pause for a minute and think. Like in every other addiction, no that I am saying that you are addicted to the person you are in love with, it is just an instance. If you don’t admit there is a problem, how will you correct it and move forward? How will you look for ways to break free of that that is tying you down, if you don’t admit it? For example: you very well know that you care for Peter, but Peter does not feel the same and in order for you not to get hurt, you have to break free from him. How will you do that, when you are denying you have feelings for him? - You cannot change what you don't admit.

So, it is very important you tell yourself the truth. Admitting to yourself that you very much care about him is a good idea, because it will now help you break free from him. We all know that when you do have a problem, psychologists and therapist will tell you to admit the problem or the issue first in order to turn things around.

Next time you want to lie to yourself, pause and think. Admitting what you feel or have done is a great idea. You don’t need to lie to yourself, you will be burying things and in the long run it will affect you. Tell yourself the true and you will find a way out. Trust me, it works magic.

Source of picture:

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Wednesday 18 April 2012

The sound of one hand clapping

A man observing and meditating

on his life's experiences and through that

he gets that discovery -

the sound of a hand clapping

The sound of one hand clapping is a Zen Masters’ tradition. It so happens that people come to these masters looking for answers and direction about their lives, but the answers they receive instead, is that they should go and meditate on the sound of one hand clapping. This meditation is not for an hour or so, it takes years in the course of people's lives; It stands for self discovery.

We know that clapping happens when one hand comes in contact with the other, and that creates a sound. In this context, the sound of one hand clapping is the sound within ourselves that already exist. We only need to discover it for it to give a sound. That can only be achieved, through observation and meditation of life experiences. This teaching tells us that, the answers we are searching for, is already within us and we need to discover it ourselves.

During our course of living, we encounter trials of every kind, and it is surprising to see how strong and wise one is when faced with trials. If we don't go through life trials, we wouldn’t have discovered our sounds (strenght and wisdom). The Zen Masters says that, we are meant to discover all those things on our own. That is the only way we will hear our sound. The sound that is already within, clapping to us for a good job.

In a nutshell, the sound of one hand clapping makes us find ourselves in our daily lives. We go through trials, to discover who we truly are and what we are capable of. We need to get lost to discover our path. So, when the sound of one hand clapping happens to you, it is because you have discovered something that was already in you that you never knew about yourself and if you didn’t go through that experience, you wouldn’t have known that. It is the sound of discovery.

The sound of one hand clapping has happen to me, as it happen to you? - discover it through observing and meditating on your life journey.

Source of Picture and story:

http://www.google.co.za/imgres?start=75&num=10&hl=en&gbv=2&biw=1024&bih=653&tbm=isch&tbnid=KDQm-3iLYJYX0M:&imgrefurl=http://memoriesofanidan.blogspot.com/2009/11/sound-of-one-hand-clapping.html&docid=nxAQ69K7DeNRoM&itg=1&imgurl=http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_V4qvTDcEUNQ/Sw85w2yVq-I/AAAAAAAAAjU/r4iYWJkHdGo/s1600/lake-meditation.jpg&w=320&h=240&ei=VN6OT62HEMLL0QXj7MiMDQ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=727&vpy=4&dur=6&hovh=192&hovw=256&tx=185&ty=94&sig=112624526887552384019&page=5&tbnh=143&tbnw=194&ndsp=21&ved=1t:429,r:14,s:75,i:224

http://www.messagefrommasters.com/Stories/Zen/Sound_of_one_Hand_Clapping.htm

I Love Dancing!!!

I am the one in the middle and i am in my zone

dancing!!!

I like that feeling, “dancing like there is no tomorrow”, that’s how I feel when I am in the dance floor; be it in the comfort of my home or at a party or at a club. When I dance I am in my zone. At that moment I feel like I am in charge of the world. Oh God! I love that feeling.

When I am dancing, I feel so happy, because at that moment i am expressing my emotions. If I feel sad, angry, hurt, whatever, I just need to dance it out and I will be alright, that's for sure. Have you ever felt that way?.

When things seem to go wrong in my life, dancing helps me cope. I am glad that I can always run to dancing, instead of drinking or smoking; because it does a better job than alcohol and smoking. It releases me from all the negativity and I have clarity on things. It is very healthy; you should try it and see.

Dancing is a talent given to me by God and that is why it comes naturally. When I am dancing, I do two things that never let me down. I go with the rhythm of the music and I follow the words. When that happens, I get all into the music and I let myself go with the flow of the music. I don’t care who is watching me, I am just in my zone. That is a wonderful feeling!!!

In a nutshell, I express the person that I am better when I am dancing. I get in touch with my inner self and I feel that I can do anything.

Tuesday 17 April 2012

Not all who wander are lost

The art inside the pyramid, represents
a person feeling lost because he/she
is afraid of growing up

Most of us know what we want out of life or where we should be heading to achieve our dreams and life goals and we also know what to do to get there, but we allow fear to control our lives and that makes us wind around and around and never moving ahead. It makes us look as if we were lost. The this is we are just wandering around but that hardly means that we are lost, it just means that we are afraid to grow up and become responsible to take the steps necessary to be great.

We all know that to be great in life, one need to work for it. You cannot expect to have a great career or a degree for instance, if you don’t work for it.

At times what happens is this, we fail to realise that we are grown-ups and with that comes the need to be responsible; because of our failure to take the chance to be responsible, we end up wandering around looking for shortcuts to achieve these dreams.

So, it takes us long to realised the facts of life. That to be great, one needs to be courageous and responsible. That way we don’t wander around.

We can wander around but that does not necessarily means that we are lost. It simply means that we are not ready to accept responsibility of things in order to get to where we want to go. I think a little push for such wanderers it’s needed for them to grow up and go for it.

Source of Picture:

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Thursday 12 April 2012

We are our brother's keeper

Mark helping John get to the top
the final destination

In my years of living, I have heard this statement “life it’s not fair” and I thought to myself that such statement will not exist, if we knew that we are our brother’s keeper. That means, if we stopped all our evil ways and embrace the will to do good and be good to one another.

I feel that greediness, selfishness and pride are the cause of most evil doings on earth. A man with the intention to just have sex with a woman and after that ending the relationship with her and not caring for her feelings, is a selfish person and will allow for the woman to say that “life it’s not fair to her” thereby making her to want to behave badly to an innocent person in the future, because she feels that men can't be trusted. This is just an example of other evil doings we humans engage in.

Imagine if each and everybody could do their little bid to uplift and help the next person, how would the world be. We all form part of this earth and this is not our final destination, we are just passing bye. So, on our way home, we need to help the next person get there.

One thing we don’t realised is that some of us are not that strong. If you make people’s life unfair, they are bound to do it to some innocent person and that is how the destructiveness circles around and vice versa. Learn to help make the next person’s life fair. Let’s make this world a peaceful and loving place.

I leave you with this quote by George Elliot “what do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?” So, love and do good. For everything you do, there is a reward.