“If you want to keep your
man, know how to cook”, my friend’s boyfriend tells me at a dinner party that
we were invited last week Friday, 23, 2012. It is true but my argument here is
that both men and women have to play their roles for the relationship to last
long. It is not fair for one to keep his side of the bargain and the other not,
which is what destroys partnership. You are partners and each most do their bid
of effort to achieve the goal, which is a relationship full of love, peace and
harmony.
Since the beginning
of time, there seems to be this law that the kitchen is the woman’s domain. It
is her duty to keep her family fed and the household in tack. We are told by
our elders, our mothers and society that a woman has to cook for her family,
that is one of her duties. Well, I have nothing against that.
We all know that for
a system to fully perform at its best; each subsystem must do their parts or
else, things will fall apart. Also, a system has boundaries and rules and regulations
that governs it states.
In every system there
is also a leader and followers. Each of them has a role to play in order for
their goal to be reached. In the case of a family, I believe that God gave each
and every member (subsystems of a system) a role to play in order to achieve
peace and harmony. The Husband being the head, has to protect, respect, love,
honour his wife. The woman on the other hand, has to love, respect and be
submissive to her husband. These are responsibilities of them as instructed by
God.
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| John not helping his wife, Mary. He thinks that he is a slave |
When God gave the man
the position of head, he did not do that for him to abuse his wife and
children, NO, he did it because he knew that women and children are weak and
need to be protected from all kinds of harm; emotionally, physically, mentally
and spiritually. What I see in society now, is men thinking that because they
are the head, they need to exert abusive control on women and children and
treat them as slaves.
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| Matthew and Marta, doing the work together. Partnership |
What I am trying to
say in essence is that, we should all do our little bit to live a life full of
love, joy, peace and harmony. You are the head to protect and lead your system
to its goal. We have to be fair; you can’t expect her to cook a delicious meal
for you, when you are abusing her physically and emotionally. It goes both
ways, 50/50. She is not a slave and the same goes to the woman. There has to be a sense of respect for each
other.
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