We are afraid of the wrong things

Joseph cutting himself short
without giving it a try
because of fear of failure

We are often afraid of the wrong things… why and for what? There is a huge fear of failure. We are afraid of not meeting people’s expectations of us, we are afraid of being ourselves because we just want to belong or be “cool”. If we were to be ourselves, maybe people wouldn’t find us all that cool to hang out with. We are afraid to be different or to voice out our opinions, because people might not agree with our opinions and thinking, so we limit ourselves so much because of so much fear.

But why is that so? Who says we shouldn’t fail and who says that to succeed you must always be on top of things and things must always go well and your way. Who says everybody must love you, or it is bad to be unique, all that society rules instill it in our heads and we forget to live.

I think we are in a society that expects so much of us. Our parent expects us to be the good child always. Our communities and society at large expects us to behave in a certain way in order to be accepted. Our friends and spouses do not make it easier either. For example, I see many us who behave foolish and become someone else in order to get affected. Enough is enough, we are not perfect and no one will ever be.

For us to climb up the ladder of success, be it in a career, as a friend, as girlfriend/wife, friend, one must not be afraid to fail and make mistakes; it is only through that path, that you will learn the right way to go. We are not here to judge people or accept them only when they do things right, but to show them more love during the times they make mistakes. Accept them the way they are; and if they make mistakes is our duty to bring them in the right path. Disciplined them but after that, show them love.

I think why people often fear the wrong things it’s because we demand so much from each other. We are quick to judge and hard to accept someone who is different from us or someone who has done wrong. Therefore, all of that adds to the fear of wrong doings and that can actually cause you to do wrong, because you are under so much pressure.

Samuel Smiles had this saying “it is a mistake to supposed that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through failures”. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and the wrong things in your life, remember you learn better ways of dealing with situations in the future through those mistakes and you become wiser and stronger. As Oprah always says “when you know better, you do better”; I have been through alot and i still have a long way to go and i refuse to give in to fear of any sorts. The wrong way will lead me back in the right way because through that i will know better.

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